An Extrospective Journal.
Half a glass of water
Lets assume that
*the glass is our life (So transparent, most of the time we never open our eyes to see the clear picture),
*the half filled water is problems of our life,
*the half filled air is subtle things which brings happiness into our life, which is almost invisible to us, as we take it for granted. which can only be felt cannot be seen, take for example love, kindness, gratitude, ambition, goal, dream, you can name it.
When a pessimist sees half a glass of water, he sees the troubled water, the still water seem to appears to him as a turbulent one, making him to feel the other part of the life as a empty one. Thus he remains empty as a whole.
When an optimist sees half a glass of water, he sees the problems as the opportunity to learn and strive, but a true optimist would go beyond the border and never fails to enjoy the subtle things in his life, making his life to the fullest to brim and overflowing, thus it effects others too 🙂 You will see the invisible air only if you look for it, otherwise it will always appears empty 🙂 Hope you get my point !
The point here is,
Positive thinking is not about expecting the best to happen every time, but accepting that whatever happens is the best for this moment..
Now a small fable:
A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, “half empty or half full?” She fooled them all…
“How heavy is this glass of water?,” she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 8 gms. to 20 gms.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night… pick them up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, put them down for a moment. Relax; pick them up later, after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!”
While some people are naturally more optimistic than others, ultimately we all get to wake up every day and choose whether we are going to be a glass half-full, or a glass half-empty person.
Below are 7 strategies for filling up your cup of optimism. My challenge to you is to try at least one of these and notice the difference it makes to your outlook and your life.
1. SET YOUR INTENTION
Before you step out of bed (and if you forget, before you leave your home) take one minute to set your intention for the day by coming up with one word that resonates with you about the attitude or spirit you want to bring to the day.
Being intentional acts like a compass and helps you better focus your time and energy. For instance, if you’ve been looking for work but have found yourself stuck in a rut and procrastinating, you might choose to be proactive and set yourself a goal of making at least 5 calls/emails today to follow up on job leads and opportunities. The intention you choose will vary according to the challenges you are facing.
2. DO SOMETHING OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Often the very thing we need to improve our circumstances requires courage. That is, closing the gap between where you are now and where you would like to be in life will require stepping outside your comfort zone and doing something that scares you in some way.
It could be picking up the phone to invite someone to dinner, attending an exercise class, or having a conversation with your boss about an issue that’s been upsetting you. There is no better way to build self-confidence than by doing something that stretches you as it teaches you that you are capable of more than you thought you were.
3. REFRAME A PROBLEM INTO AN OPPORTUNITY
You can’t solve your problems by complaining about them. But you can solve them (or at least learn to accept them) by reframing them so that you can approach them from a new angle. To quote Einstein: “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking at which they were created.”
Where pessimists see problems, optimists find opportunities. If you change the way you look at your problems, your problems change and transform into a rich array of opportunities to grow, learn and discover inner resources you never knew you had!
4. AVOID ENERGY DRAINERS
Optimism is contagious. So too is pessimism. If you are struggling to feel more positive, don’t spend your time hanging out with “emotional vampires” – those people who suck the life out of you with their complaints and commentary about everything that is wrong with both the world and the people in it. Choose your company wisely and limit the time you spend with people who don’t fill your cup of optimism and “can do” self-confidence.
5. CARRY YOURSELF LIKE AN OPTIMIST
Scientists have already proven that how you present and carry yourself on the outside has a huge impact on how you feel on the inside. Harvard researcher Amy Cuddy has gone a step further, discovering that specific adjustments in your body language make you feel more powerful and confident – which in turn can positively affect the quality and outcome of your most important interactions (think meetings, interviews, and other potentially stressful conversations).
If you change how you hold yourself physically, it will change how you feel emotionally. Slump your shoulders, pout your bottom lip and look down to the ground and optimism and opportunity will elude you. But stand tall, chin up, smile and engage with people as though you were the outgoing, confident, optimistic and successful person you aspire to be, and you will attract all sorts of positive people and opportunities into your life.
As people relate to you differently, you will gradually begin to feel differently – and more positive – yourself. Don’t feel like it? Do it anyway! The old saying “Fake it ‘til you make it” is literally true.
6. LIGHTEN UP
Why is it that comedians tend to live very long lives? It’s because they have become so masterful at finding the humor in even the most unfunny situations. While it’s not always easy to see the lighter side of things, it’s always helpful. Humor is a highly effective antidote to almost every ailment, anxiety or adversity. Watching a funny movie or spending time with a friend who really makes you laugh is literally medicinal.
A 2009 study by researchers at the University of Maryland has shown that laughter has more health benefits than we can imagine. Laughter can flush clots, cholesterol and inflammation from the body. It increases heart rate and blood flow, and has similar health benefits to exercise.
‘Endorphins are released during laughter, which help to relieve pain, reduce cravings and stress, and slow the aging process. Laughter can also lower blood sugar levels, improve your immune system, and increase our disease fighting antibodies. If that’s not enough, laughter is a natural sleep aid. So what are you waiting for? We all know it takes more muscles to frown than to smile – start laughing and increase your beauty sleep!
If you are one of those people who never exercises, then I’m sorry, I know you hate to hear it again, but EXERCISE IS GOOD FOR YOU.
Not only is it great for you physically, it’s a very potent drug for making you feel better psychologically. As your heart starts pumping, your body releases endorphin into your system which not only burn off stress, but allow you to view your life and challenges through a more empowering and optimistic lens.
Please try one of these strategies today and let me know how it helps.
A mathematical riddle, just for fun 🙂
You are in an empty room and you have a transparent glass of water. The glass is a right cylinder, and it looks like it’s half full, but you’re not sure. How can you accurately figure out whether the glass is half full, more than half full, or less than half full? You have no rulers or writing utensils.
Tip the glass so the water reaches the lip. If the bottom of the glass is still covered it’s more than half full. If part is exposed, then it’s less that half. If the water surface is at the edge of both ends then it’s exactly half full.